People Hurt for a Reason
I was watching TV thursday night and my wife's favorite show came on "Grey's Anatomy". I'm not a fan of the show but if you are, you might recognize familiar coined phrases and names such as "Dr. McDreamy". I watched reluctantly as I was caught entranced by the story of a little girl in the show. She had a condition where she could not physically feel pain. At first the doctor's did not know what was wrong because she had multiple cuts and bruises. After testing her pain threshold it was apparent that she could not feel pain. Therefore she continued to get injured without calling attention to herself. The doctor discovered she was bleeding internally from multiple injuries. The little girl did not want to go into surgery. She felt no pain so she did not see the need for it. While in surgery, one of the doctors said "there's a reason people feel pain". That struck me the instant I heard it. I think sometimes I intentionally supress what I am truly feeling in order to not feel pain. Unfortunately, that doesn't mean something isn't wrong. Something is wrong. I should have a son here with me now. But I don't. I think we have to let ourselves hurt in order to know something is wrong and that we need help. Just like the little girl in the show, I have to give in to those who want to help me even if my feelings are now suppressed so that I can get better.
posted by Carter Heckman @ 5:13 PM
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You guys just seem like such beautiful people, God bless you in Jesus' name!! My heart breaks concerning my divorce and the amount of time I spend with my children! But nothing compared to your loss!
Be unbelievably blessed in the future with your son looking down from heaven and thanking God for such wonderful parents who adore him!!!!!!!!
KERRY
Gary,
I think you are right. It sounds like you have come to an important realization. Please know that there are many people who care about you guys and are ready to help you in any way we can as you deal with the pain of your loss. At the very least, know that you are remembered in our prayers.
Gary & Sara -
Last weekend was the American Liver Foundation's walk here in KC. There was a group of us who walked to raise awareness of liver disease in children. During our walk, I couldn't help but think of Carter. I hope that the research funds we helped raise will go towards a cure for Biliary Atresia.
Although we never meant in person, I feel like we've walked the same road to an extent. Your faith astounds me. There will be another liver walk next year - we'd be honored if you'd join us.
The good thing about pain is that there's always a friend to help ease it. You're still in my prayers. I love you Sarah!!
I watched this episode as well, and I actually looked at your site the day that you posted this, but I couldn't remember my username on here to leave a comment! Lol. I hope that you guys are doing well, and I completely agree with everything that was said in this blog. People DO hurt for a reason and it's ok... It's not just going to go away and keeping it all bottled up inside isn't helping matters either.. Just know that we are all thinking about you here and pretty much will never forget the impact you have made on our lives. I idolize you! Love, ME!
Gary,
I, too, saw that same show with Candice. You are so right! I still to this day have problems talking about what all Candice went through those first few months after she fell and broke her neck just a little over a year ago. Sarah was there to see her in Springfield, when Candice was still fighting to just stay alive. Who new what lay ahead for us to face the rest of the year?
Sarah said something to me on MSN Messager just last week about "How much both of our lives had changed in the last year, and how we all had to deal with so much pain this last year." How very true that is! We had to stand back and watch Candice learn to deal with her lifeless body, knowing there was nothing we could do to fix it for her. And you and Sarah had to face loosing your precious baby Carter, knowing that there was nothing you could do to fix his problems either. It is certainly understandable why we constantly ask God "WHY?", isn't it? Hopefully, we will get that answer one of these days!!!
Yes, we do hurt for a reason, physically and emotionally! I do hope you both release your pain and set it free, so you and Sarah both can begin to heal your broken hearts.
We love you guys and miss seeing you all at WPCC. Take Care and God Bless you both.
Yours in Christ,
Linda Minear
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